Question by : How should I tell him?
My boyfriend (let’s call him “Ben”) have recently been accepted to an internship position at Walt Disney World in Orlando, FL… which is where he is going after he graduates from college in two months. I’m currently a graduate student, but on weekends, I would visit him at his college (where I graduated from last year for my BA). Anyway, the problem is that last semester, before he and I started dating, I told him that I could move to Florida (I live within the Washington, DC area) after I finish graduate school next year, so he and I, at the time, decided on going long-distance. The thing is that recently, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and realized that I can’t leave DC (because of my family, niece/nephew, etc..). I’ve started realizing that I can’t give up my entire life and follow him to Florida. His internship lasts for about 6-7 months, but after that, the company would offer him a steady job there… and I know that he wouldn’t want to come back to DC after the internship anyway. And plus, I know that he would ended up meeting new people there and possibly find someone else there… so long-distance relationship wouldn’t work out. SO overall, I feel like there are no other options for us except breaking up.

I haven’t told him how I feel yet… I don’t know how I could do it… right now, he seems so happy and preoccupied with the Walt Disney World internship opportunity.

How should I tell him? Am I being unreasonable about this?

Best answer:

Answer by GreenMan
I think you are being fear guilt doesn’t enter into this.
I feel you are being honest with yourself and people here on answers.
The fact that you’re up front about your feelings is good. I think you’re smart and handling this quite well.
I would say to be 100% honest with him if he is mature he will realize what you’re saying makes sense.
He will meet other people and in any case you’d have to trust your judgment in him 7 yourself.
However 7 months is not undo-able as people in Iraq do much more than that and stay faithful.
They have a commitment and I feel your not wanting to leave your family is a sign (read what I’m saying).
Wouldn’t you feel more at ease after graduate school?
Just look at the seven months like a investment for the future both yours and his.
You see you’ll not have uncertainties and be able to know if things could be right between you. Remember if this works out it will mean you may have to move.

In the same sense if you ever want to meet someone you’ll probably never be able to if you have to stay with your family.
Not unless you meet just the right person like the ‘boy next door’–!.
Highly unlikely too limited a selection.
But it’s your life and I’m being fair and sensible for both of you.
So you understand we all have to make choices.
Best of luck with everything.
The green-man

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