Question by : About helping a cross-dressing friend in pain?
A friend of mine has confided in me about cross-dressing. He is married and has two kids, little kids. His wife is aware of the cross dressing, but not the extent of his obsession.

He won’t go to therapy because he is afraid of therapy. Does any one know of any resources in the Baltimore or Washington DC area for therapists- support groups – anything?

I understand that he is in a terrific amount of pain, but I am not a therapist. I am afraid that letting him talk to me about it is enabling him from figuring out what to do.

To be clear, I 100% support him dressing as a woman. I think that cross-dressing is fine. I just don’t know why he hasn’t already come out and I don’t know how to help him transition.

I kind of think that his refusal to see a therapist who can help him figure out whether he really wants to or not is because he doesn’t really want to. But, I just don’t know. I don’t have any other friends but him with this problem.

Please send me links and resources as well as your opinion on how I can help him.
He wants to come out as a woman now. He wants to get a new job and start working as a woman. It is not my idea.

You are right that it is none of my business, he comes to me. He contacts me at least fifty times per day. I do not contact him.

I am trying to help him. I don’t care how anyone dresses.
Again, to be clear – It is not me who thinks he should start living as a woman – it is his idea. Entirely his. I support him either way – he is my friend no matter what he wears.

Best answer:

Answer by Sophie B
Why do you think he needs to “come out”?

He’s a cross-dresser, not gay..A cross dressing man, just likes to dress in womens clothes.
99% are otherwise Hetrosexual..
If he doesn’t want therapy, leave him alone.. probably fine just the way he is.
And it’s really none of your business…

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