Posts Tagged ‘friend’
What are some pro’s and con’s if I let my best friend use my address to change over his license, Registration?
Posted by Mostafa Safavi in All about New York on February 17th, 2012
Question by : What are some pro’s and con’s if I let my best friend use my address to change over his license, Registration?
I just moved to Virginia like 6 months ago and my best friend who lives in New York City wanted to know if he could use my address to change his license and registration over. He was telling me it would make his car payments or insurance cheaper then what he’s paying now. What are some of the pro’s and con’s if I let him use my address. Do you think I should do it?
Best answer:
Answer by Chris
It’s called ‘fronting’ and it’s illegal.. Pretty big con to be honest..
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I need help advising a cross-dressing friend?
Posted by Mostafa Safavi in All about Washington D.C. on February 8th, 2012
Question by : I need help advising a cross-dressing friend?
A friend of mine has confided in me about cross-dressing. He is married and has two kids, little kids. His wife is aware of the cross dressing, but not the extent of his obsession.
He won’t go to therapy because he is afraid of therapy. Does any one know of any resources in the Baltimore or Washington DC area for therapists- support groups – anything?
I understand that he is in a terrific amount of pain, but I am not a therapist. I am afraid that letting him talk to me about it is enabling him from figuring out what to do.
To be clear, I 100% support him dressing as a woman. I think that cross-dressing is fine. I just don’t know why he hasn’t already come out and I don’t know how to help him transition.
I kind of think that his refusal to see a therapist who can help him figure out whether he really wants to or not is because he doesn’t really want to. But, I just don’t know. I don’t have any other friends but him with this problem.
Please send me links and resources as well as your opinion on how I can help him.
He confided in me first about 10 years ago. I am basically the only one he talks to about it. I have patience and love for him and support him.
I am insecure about whether or not I am good enough to be the one who gives him advice. He used to be 100% in the closet with the cross dressing. But, now he wants to get a job where he dresses as a woman. I don’t know if he should. I don’t know if he really wants to or if he just likes obsessively planning to do it. I don’t know why he has intrusive thoughts about wearing women’s clothes.
He constantly window shops on the Internet for dresses he wants to wear to work and sends me the links. I get about 5-10 links to outfits per day.
I don’t think these obsessive thoughts are healthy but I don’t know how to help him.
Best answer:
Answer by aspicco
I respect your desire to try to help your friend, but what help does he want?
You may not be a therapist, but listening is a major part of any therapist’s job… why did he confide in you in the first place? He must have felt comfortable talking to you. So I would say listen. Maybe starting with you listening might make it easier for him to eventually get into therapy… but remember, people spoke to friends for centuries before anyone dreamed up psychoanalysis.
Trust yourself. Listen. Ask occasional questions. Sometimes repeat back to him, in your own words, what he tells you, so you understand exactly what he is saying.
Why does he have to come out as a cross dresser? Many people are quiet cross-dressers who will often walk the streets dressed as the opposite sex. Society is general is not very accepting of cross dressing, so he may very well want to keep it private…
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Q&A: About helping a cross-dressing friend in pain?
Posted by Mostafa Safavi in All about Washington D.C. on January 27th, 2012
Question by : About helping a cross-dressing friend in pain?
A friend of mine has confided in me about cross-dressing. He is married and has two kids, little kids. His wife is aware of the cross dressing, but not the extent of his obsession.
He won’t go to therapy because he is afraid of therapy. Does any one know of any resources in the Baltimore or Washington DC area for therapists- support groups – anything?
I understand that he is in a terrific amount of pain, but I am not a therapist. I am afraid that letting him talk to me about it is enabling him from figuring out what to do.
To be clear, I 100% support him dressing as a woman. I think that cross-dressing is fine. I just don’t know why he hasn’t already come out and I don’t know how to help him transition.
I kind of think that his refusal to see a therapist who can help him figure out whether he really wants to or not is because he doesn’t really want to. But, I just don’t know. I don’t have any other friends but him with this problem.
Please send me links and resources as well as your opinion on how I can help him.
He wants to come out as a woman now. He wants to get a new job and start working as a woman. It is not my idea.
You are right that it is none of my business, he comes to me. He contacts me at least fifty times per day. I do not contact him.
I am trying to help him. I don’t care how anyone dresses.
Again, to be clear – It is not me who thinks he should start living as a woman – it is his idea. Entirely his. I support him either way – he is my friend no matter what he wears.
Best answer:
Answer by Sophie B
Why do you think he needs to “come out”?
He’s a cross-dresser, not gay..A cross dressing man, just likes to dress in womens clothes.
99% are otherwise Hetrosexual..
If he doesn’t want therapy, leave him alone.. probably fine just the way he is.
And it’s really none of your business…
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Q&A: What is the best way to ask my friend to look jobs around for me in San Francisco? Do they like it?
Posted by Mostafa Safavi in All about San Francisco on December 4th, 2011
Question by Tommyjilly: What is the best way to ask my friend to look jobs around for me in San Francisco? Do they like it?
Best answer:
Answer by xzhou11377
just tell them that you are looking for job if there is job opening let you know. they are always willing to help out
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My friend and I are going to New York for spring break. I’ve never been there. What are some things I MUST do?
Posted by Mostafa Safavi in All about New York on November 6th, 2011
Question by Sebboh: My friend and I are going to New York for spring break. I’ve never been there. What are some things I MUST do?
What are some things I gotta do while staying in New York? Anything at all, tell me your experience or suggestions!
Best answer:
Answer by Ghost of Zeuz
Washington Square Park
Rockefeller Center
Vietnam Veterans Wall (near Water Street)
Central Park
Guggenheim Museum
Metropolitan Museum of Art
Cloisters
Bowne House
Peculiar Pub
Fraunces Tavern
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Do i reaaly need some showmoney of SGD 500 even someone will pay for my airfare friend invited me to visit?
Posted by Mostafa Safavi in All about Singapore on November 6th, 2011
Question by ana mildred camero: Do i reaaly need some showmoney of SGD 500 even someone will pay for my airfare friend invited me to visit?
Friend will accommodate me for the whole stay in singapore and the daily food and as such. Stay will last for about a week or two
Best answer:
Answer by Ryan A
Your question doesn’t make sense.
If you are asking if you need some money in Singapore though your friend is paying for the airfare, food & lodging. Then, of course you have too. This does not need to be told. It is expected to bring some money when you are traveling with or without your friend’s help. You can’t expect your friend to pay for EVERYTHING during your stay in Singapore do you. S$ 500 is minimal.
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Can a woman make a man pay child support if he didn’t want a baby? My friend in BIG trouble. HELP!?
Posted by Mostafa Safavi in All about New York on November 5th, 2011
Question by Seekerguy123: Can a woman make a man pay child support if he didn’t want a baby? My friend in BIG trouble. HELP!?
Hi all! A friend of mine is in BIG trouble. He got his girlfriend pregnant a while back by accident. She said she was on the Pill but she lied to him. They broke up and now she’s with another dude. The dude she’s now with has even threatened to physically hurt him if he doesn’t pay up. He’s a really young guy. He’s 19 and she’s 18. The dude she’s dating now is like over 35. It’s a really messed up overall situation. He didn’t want the baby but she had it anyway. He said he got a letter in the mail from her public defender lawyer demanding backed up child support to be paid of over $ 5,000 in just under a year. He laughed about it because he only makes about $ 750.00 per month working at Burger King. He has no money saved up. He really has no future right now. Can a woman make a man pay child support if he didn’t want a baby? My friend in big trouble. HELP! Could he go to jail? He lives in New York. He said he won’t give her a penny because he said she should’ve had an abortion or put the baby up for adoption. Any answers would be appreciated. Thanks!
Best answer:
Answer by Meghz
LMAO. Sorry but your buddy is screwed. Whether he wanted it or not, he’s gotta pay. He can request a paternity test to make sure it is his. But he has to pay.
Will he go to jail? I’m not sure. But I know the court can garnish his wages and give a percentage to her.
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My friend & I went out last week and he got a DUI driving my car home cuz I was too drunk. Should I help pay?
Posted by Mostafa Safavi in All about San Francisco on October 4th, 2011
Question by hortha71: My friend & I went out last week and he got a DUI driving my car home cuz I was too drunk. Should I help pay?
Our arrangement has been the same for a couple years now. We both have one prior DUI and what usually happens is I pay for us to get in to wherever we’re going, we take my car (he doesn’t have to chip in for gas), I buy 1 or 2 beers for him at the beginning of the evening and by the end of the night, he drives us both home.
Last week, I won free tickets to see a show 50 miles away in San Francisco. My friend came along and unlike most of the other times before, he kept up with me drink for drink. When it came time to drive home he just got in the driver’s seat as usual & 10 miles down the highway, we get pulled over. The police take him away & I am released to a taxi to drop me off at a local fleabag motel. My car was impounded & as it stands I already have invested $ 350 with motel, cab, and getting my car out of impound.
This is his 2nd DUI… how much guilt should I be feeling & how much do I owe my best friend? He’s looking at maybe $ 5,000 all together, not to mention jail time.
Best answer:
Answer by Gastounet
If you can afford it, it would be nice to share the financial burden. The jail time he will have to do on his own…
It’s really not a good idea to drink and drive. When I go out with my friends with a high probability of drinking we take taxis. It’s cheap and safe…
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Q&A: My friend & I went out last week and he got a DUI driving my car home cuz I was too drunk. Should I help pay?
Posted by Mostafa Safavi in All about San Francisco on July 24th, 2011
Question by cgiv76: My friend & I went out last week and he got a DUI driving my car home cuz I was too drunk. Should I help pay?
Our arrangement has been the same for a couple years now. We both have one prior DUI and what usually happens is I pay for us to get in to wherever we’re going, we take my car (he doesn’t have to chip in for gas), I buy 1 or 2 beers for him at the beginning of the evening and by the end of the night, he drives us both home.
Last week, I won free tickets to see a show 50 miles away in San Francisco. My friend came along and unlike most of the other times before, he kept up with me drink for drink. When it came time to drive home he just got in the driver’s seat as usual & 10 miles down the highway, we get pulled over. The police take him away & I am released to a taxi to drop me off at a local fleabag motel. My car was impounded & as it stands I already have invested $ 350 with motel, cab, and getting my car out of impound.
This is his 2nd DUI… how much guilt should I be feeling & how much do I owe my best friend? He’s looking at maybe $ 5,000 all together, not to mention jail time.
Best answer:
Answer by Geni
Absolutely help – IF you are really friends. If not, you will never be friends again.
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